WW Patience, Limbo amd Fear

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I see why AS is the validation king. You're right, me bringing up the topic and asking for an answer next day is pressure. I see how time helps and I also see it as an enemy. I was ready and willing to take her back for several months, despite what she did and my ego saying no. After months of abuse then months of inaction, I lost any feelings for her. Time may heal her but it pulled me away.

On patience....patience hurts the kids and I both if we D in the end. W is also asking to put money in to the house. Thats such a waste if we sell the place. I truly think she's ok living like this until my youngest is in kindergarten. I cant, and dont want to. I've heard of long limbos but that is insane. If we were friends or friends with benefits maybe I'd have more patience.

AS as always I appreciate the insight. I see how I could've handled the mbr situation better.

Beth, Im sorry you are going through this as well. Womens sitches seem to be much more successful here, not always but a higher chance. Ive never heard the saying Hell hath no fury like a man scorned....just the opposite. I wish you the best and will check out your sitch.

I used my resource and see my W hasnt contacted anyone today. Im shocked that shes contacted no one for support.

Ive no idea what to expect when/if we do talk in the morning. I know she wants D, but will she say it or avoid. I guess either way, I need to proceed with starting the process as I stated. Shes probably relieved to not have to do the work.