It is phrases like this one that show you this person is trying to provoke you and not simply inform you.
Be cool Curtis.
I agree 100% with Ovrrnbw's statement.^^^^^^^
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“We both know
They sound like amateurs, IMHO. Plus, so many of their texts contradict. For example, they tell you several times to ask her about it, then say, “If I were you, I would not tell her you know". They really want to tell you what to do, don't they? Catch her in the act, etc.
I'm inclined to think your W has shared information with someone who pretended to befriend her. Based on the way they talk about you, it's as if your W was talking to them on a daily basis......like one would do with a friend/co-worker. It's little bits of information they've gathered over time, not all at once. They may have approached her about the rampant gossip at work. I've known that to happen, where one woman will act very concerned and proceed to tell the W what's being said at work. Then the emotional W shares her side of the "truth".
Rest assured this pair is not concerned for your feelings or your MR. They just want your W to pay, for whatever reason. I don't know what they mean by your W did not honor her end of the deal.......except, it alludes to someone wanting revenge. They seem cowardly, IMHO. Apparently, they don't want to be identified.
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I have no interest in ever dealing with them unless they are a threat to my family.
I can appreciate your concerns. These days, you never know who you are dealing with. I know it's easy for outsiders to suggest what to do. I hope you will not mention your concern for the safety of your family, b/c it gives them a greater sense of power. If it gets too rough, contact someone that can give your legal advice in how to handle it.
They are definitely trying to goad you. And again, they sound like females, just in the way they talk.
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Sandi, I think you may be onto something about a vengeful co-worker. I wonder if this is an attempt to smear her and ruin her reputation at work. Maybe W has an idea of who they are and why they want to expose her.
Well, they want to expose her to you, b/c they want you to do something that they can't. At least, they don't feel they can do it.......and remain covert. That causes me to think it is someone who stands to lose favor or status if they were outed as the bad guys who ruined your W's reputation at work....or elsewhere.
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As a former WW, would you want to know this is going on behind the scenes?
You asked me as a former WW, and I'll have to tell you honestly that I would want to know.....period. Whether I was wayward or next thing to a saint, I would want to know that these people were out for revenge......and that they were trying to go through my H to get it. I know, there is probably room for argument of why you shouldn't tell her, but I'm not even going to address it. I can only think of how I would feel if my H knew this..... and didn't warn me about it. I don't see how it would make things much worse, by showing her the messages. It may not make things better, as for as saving the M, but I don't think it would get worse.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!