WW post D (Thanks BenB part 3)

[Mumin]

Part 2: Part 2

Very short recap:
Me: 34
STBXW: 30
D:5 D:3
Mini bd: May/June 2019
Married: Aug 2019
BD: 6th Dec 2019

Christmas sucked!
January was a lot of chaos
Feb
-Finally had enough and changed my mindset
-Understanding DB for real and getting more control. GAL etc
-I told the kids about situation late February.
-Wife admitted seeing OM. A colleague from work.
March
-Working on DB and detachment
-Corona starts
-I filed for D.

Now.
-She is living 50% with OM, other 50% in our house. I am living in the house 100%.

Last two posts:
Me

Just met wife after being away for Easter.
Said hi, she opened for a hug.
Me-How are you?
W-I'm ok, I'm good. (Then I saw she was sad. Close to crying)
W-It feels strange and tough to see you now.
I went to say hi to kids who were still sitting in the car.

After having talked to the kids...
Me-Do you want to talk?
W-I don't know. Maybe. Do you?
Me-Well not now.

Silence.

Me-I guess you are off then? My tone turned. Look at her less.
I said good bye. Saw she was sad.
Didn't look at her leaving
She needed comfort but I didn't give it.

LH19

M,

Kind of a weird exchange.
You ask her if she wants to talk (big no no BTW)
She kind of hints that she does and you say “not now” but don’t put the ball in her court as to when this could happen.
Then you go cold on her.
I definitely wouldn’t of handled it that way.