Steve ~ Is there any reason that YOU need to legally separate (financial or otherwise)?
Don't work on a legal S as a way to prove a 180. Just my opinion.
Some here would say you are firmly establishing yourself as a Plan B with the friendly rapport with your WAW. I don't think in those terms (Plan A/B) necessarily, but I do think you are showing her that you are okay being friends, which makes perpetuating the situation quite easy for her.
I don't know how to help you get over the failure part. I feel it too. But it's not all your fault.
