I understand exactly how you feel. My daughter was 6 months old when my ex left. He began cheating during my high risk/ IVF pregnancy, and left me for her when our baby was still just a baby. It’s 12 years later now. They are married.
Your kids will have a stable family. If she is a good mom and you are a good dad, your kids will have a stable family and will be happy. My daughter is 12. She is smart, has friends, loves school, and is a very happy kid. I would say her life is pretty stable. I think she would have been so well off if we stayed together and she say how her father treated me. I couldn’t change him just like you can’t get your ex to decide to fix things.
You will ok. Your kids will be ok. They won’t be ok if they see a dysfunction limbo relationship.
