^^^^What LH says. You said you want to have a relationship talk to ask her WTF she wants. Well, she wants to cake eat . So what you need to do is present her with the 2 scenarios like LH mentioned. Those are the 2 things that will work for YOU. That’s alpha. She doesn’t get the cake eating choice.
You ask if you should be flirty, or cold, or whatever. All I can tell you is, if you are flirty one minute, cold the next, distant an, joking in another breath, she isn’t going to believe anything. She’s going to think you are trying every tactic and nothing is real. You say to wayfarer why would you give money to someone who abuses you and is cheating. Well, why would you flirty with that same person?
If you can’t be still and consistent in this time, you’ll get no where. If you know for sure it’s either we are working on this or we are going out seperate ways, then you need to do it and stick to which one of those answers she gives you. If you aren’t ready for that, then you have to be still and not keep trying different things to find what “works” that isn’t going to change her mind or change who she is right now
