Persistent Endurance (Part 8)

[curtis7]

If knowledge of what your ex-wife is doing with other men excites you, ask. If not, then don't. From a practical perspective you already know she's a WW and she hasn't agreed to reconcile. In your shoes I wouldn't ask, but I also wouldn't have let her move in. Choose what's right for you.

CW, I have plenty of knowledge of these OM back in my snooping days (haven’t done that again in almost 5 months). I guess I’m asking if I should show the texts to her and let her lead and decide what to do?

I'm glad you came back and I am really sorry you are still going through this with everything that is going on in the world. I can understand your frustration with the advice you received on here because it was completely different that what you were doing. I think you also should look at the other side and understand complete strangers were taking time out of their day to try to help you even though you never embraced DB from day 1.

Hey LH, good to hear from you. I agree that I didn’t DB the way I was advised. I see many flaws in how I reacted and chose to handle my sitch. Letting her go, working on myself, focusing on the kids, and just living my life for me worked the best.

Just answering your question. Why bother? At this point what can you find out? That your W is a liar? You already know this right?

Lol, yes, of course I know about the lies. Being gaslighted for a year makes you keenly aware when others are not being honest with you. I have no interest in finding out more about her proclivities. The mind movies have been difficult enough to erase. They start to fade away, then I receive a reminder like this which triggers them back to the forefront.

My concern is that someone may be stalking her or that she is being blackmailed. I’ve received over a dozen texts from this number in a couple days. I suspect a request for money could be coming if I show interest in their information. Perhaps someone hacked her computer or phone or one of the OM sold her nude selfies as a way to get back at her for breaking off the A. Or perhaps it’s one of the OM that wants me to throw her out so they get revenge or she goes back to them. Has anyone heard of anything like this before?