Tell yourself you don’t care next time. Acknowledge that you do, but act is if you don’t. Trick your brain. You don’t care why he is asking you a particular question. You don’t care if he wants to join you in a particular activity. You don’t care whether he feels left out, lonely, lacklustre, lascivious, or any other kind of way! You are so fabulous that he doesn’t even register in your mind while you’re making your plans with your daughter.
Don’t stress too much. It’ll take time to rewire your brain. Right now, you still care about him and you care what he thinks about you. It’s impossible for human beings with secure attachments, like you, to instantly turn off that feeling. Don’t feel bad about it. It’s a sign that you are whole and healthy. However, as a result, it will take a lot of effort to dismantle the bond you have with H. It has to be a deliberate and systematic process. A series of choices. It takes thirty days to form a habit, right? Or something like that. Imagine how much more confident, empowered, and peaceful you could feel in just thirty days!
