Well - I guess it went as well as it could for moving out your H from your M home.
He texted me he was "here" but I always hear that truck pull into the neighborhood... so I knew the party was about to begin. Trying to remember everyone's advice... stay cool, don't talk much, listen/validate, etc.
I walk out there and he is walking back up the driveway after putting something in trash can. I can't help it... I was the one who spoke first "HOW DID YOU MANAGE TO GET A HAIRCUT?". Okay mostly out of jealousy but it was also an ice breaker I guess.
H said B did it. Well since NYE party its been my H, R (his wife -who has stayed with sometimes), B and OW. Its like they are the 3 musketeers only H and OW went on to PA.
So I asked H what/how he wanted to do this? In order to show that I no longer need to be controlling - this is HIS dog and pony show.
H acted like his back hurt him... he didn't say anything so I ignored. Loaded up up the totes he had dropped off which I had packed with clothes. Told him I needed a couple more. He seemed confused on what to do next. He said he was going to try to take the gun safe (it looked rainy) so I suggested he start getting stuff out of the attic... oh okay.
So up to the attic we went. Fishing, Hunting and Camping were already in big totes. We went through the totes as there was some stuff that belonged to S18 which he took out. He continued to move awkwardly so I finally asked if he was ok - "yes, stiff back"... ok. I helped carry down the large totes and put in truck.
He seemed perplexed again as to what to do next... there was some room left in the truck but not for anything big. So again I suggested we sort through the black shelving unit and divide up stuff there... "ok".
There were no disagreements. When I said I was using X sander (which was his) he said ok and left it. I freely gave him other stuff I didn't think I would ever use. He offered to leave the battery charger, but I didn't know how to use. So he gave me a quick lesson and left it.
He acted uncomfortable again so I said sorry that his back was hurting him... he grumbled he is sleeping on a pillow top mattress (he hates those.... lol... he would prefer to sleep on a rock!). I listened and agreed. He asked when the next time he could come to get the rest. I stated I would check my schedule. It would probably be a weekend again - he said that was fine.
He asked for my help with the tie downs - not a problem. Then he states "I was going to have you follow me in your SUV back to Kokomo and take you for that bike ride, but the weather isn't very nice today" OK - (inside eyes popping out of my head but on the outside-) very calmly stated I appreciated the offer. Then he replied "maybe the next time he comes the weather will be better"
WHAT???
Does his GF/OW know he is taking his wife out on a motorcycle ride????
I had this weird feeling he wanted to show me his house that he is buying but that is just speculation on my part.
I can't believe I maintained my cool when he said that... GO ME... Yes, I want that bike ride... I so want that freaking bike ride... but I was calm and friendly and appreciate with a soft even tone.
At that point I stated my hands were filthy from the garage stuff and I was going to go wash up. He was welcome to come in to wash his before leaving.
He did wash up in the kitchen. Noticed the dogs playing outside. I foolishly offerred him something to eat and bit my tongue as soon as it slipped out - he declined... moving on... But he happened to notice out of the corner of his eye that the step ladder was out.... and he asked why it was out.
I just answered that the last storm that went through fried the doorbell. I'm struggling because I can't figure out which breaker its on - its not the one you think it should be. I went to go buy a new one today but the X store was closed due to Easter. H went out to garage to look at breakers. I said I will get it figured out and changing out the doorbell should be simple enough.
At this point I start wrapping things up... telling him good bye... he is like ya - I'll see you later... I went back into the house and did not watch him drive off.
About 50min after he left - he called. He would not have been back home at this point... he should have still been driving. I did not pick up... today was hard enough. There was NO R talk. H didn't ask any personal questions of me - like work, blah blah blah. I was mostly a business deal.
AND I handled it with flying colors!!!!!
TWO QUESTIONS 1) What was the idea of having me come for a motorcycle ride??? 2) What was the call about??? He didn't leave message OR call me back OR text anything. Was I right to ignore this call?
