Congratulations on the weight loss! I wish I could write you more often. Based on my experience the only possible way you and your husband could reconcile is if his relationship with the other woman deteriorates. As long as he and she are in love and happy together it doesn't seem as though he'll change his mind. Do you remember how much you were in love with your husband when you first started dating him? If your ex-husband or any other ex tried to get back with you at that time would you have considered it? Even if any man showed interest in you when you first fell in love with your husband would you have been receptive? Probably not. "Love" is such a powerful feeling. Even though what your husband is feeling with this other woman isn't true love because it's based on betrayal and infidelity but to him it must feel like love. He's wiling to risk everything he built with you for her. You and the divorce are now the only obstacles to his happy new life. Guess who he might call, however, if he ends up single and lonely in a few years? You might become quite an attractive option again then, but it seems like the chances of you and him getting back together are low because you'd have to be single too. Plus there'd have to be no other woman vying for your husband's attention at that time. And the anger and resentment you feel from what he did would have to be addressed and he'd have to be truly sorry for how he hurt you, not just sorry for himself that he ended up single. There's a magic formula that'd have to be in place and all the stars would have to align. It's the saddest thing to go through this. It seems like there's always a glimmer of hope but the destruction these cheaters cause to our lives is astronomical beyond their comprehension (or willingness to comprehend due to their selfishness). FYI - my ex is still with his other woman after nearly three years. I'm deeply sorry for what you're going through because I know the pain. I also can't believe the audacity of a cheater to introduce their affair partner to their parents when they're still married! That is just unbelievable to me. I'll be thinking of you as you do the best you possibly can through these fragile days.
