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Thanks LH!
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Now in the time to become the person you want to be.

This estimate so well with me. Look in the mirror several times a day and tell myself, be the best you!

Update:
I have traveled to be with my parents for Easter. Really nice get away!
So yesterday W send me three pics, two of the kids and one of the hallway which she had repainted the hallway.
I just liked images of kids and wrote Nice! about the hallway.

Today she has sent 8 images of the three of them celebrating Easter.
Not sure what to do/answer tbh..

It is a good thing she is being serious and good to the kids (they looked real happy).
But it really feels like she is trying to show me her doing good things.
She knows what she has done to the family and she has also missed a few activity events with D5, gave kids only rice for dinner etc..


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Treat her like the cashier at the store . Just say thanks or nice and go back about your day.


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I wrote,
Lovely kids, glad to see they're happy.

I get back som frustration about this. Like she's either thinking everything will go back to normal or that she is trying to be nice to smooth things over. Stupid b!7ch


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W wants to meet me at the bus station when I am back after Easter.
Will probably just reply "that's fine".
Feels a bit strange for the kids though. Is this switching behavior "normal"?


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Define “switching behavior”

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With switching I mean when she leaves the kids and I take over responsibility.
She probably wants to minimize time with me, but it feels like it might be a bit strange for the kids.
Not used to this whole life style and with new situations my brain tends to think W will act as the old W.


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Expectations vs reality.

Keep DB. Be strong man! You can do it.


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Originally Posted by Mumin
W wants to meet me at the bus station when I am back after Easter.
Will probably just reply "that's fine".
Feels a bit strange for the kids though. Is this switching behavior "normal"?

Mumin,

what are you meeting her for? To swap the kids?


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Just met wife after being away for Easter.
Said hi, she opened for a hug.

Me-How are you?
W-I'm ok, I'm good. (Then I saw she was sad. Close to crying)
W-It feels strange and tough to see you now.
I went to say hi to kids who were still sitting in the car.

After having talked to the kids...
Me-Do you want to talk?
W-I don't know. Maybe. Do you?
Me-Well not now.

Silence.

Me-I guess you are off then? My tone turned. Look at her less.
I said good bye. Saw she was sad.
Didn't look at her leaving

She needed comfort but I didn't give it.


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Missed your post Ovr. Yes, it was to swap the kids.
I have been away for easter.


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Married: Aug 2019
BD: 6th Dec 2019
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March 2020: I filed for D
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