Why in the world is she maintaining contact with ME if she is having parties with H and OW???
She doesn't have to choose. She may enjoy contact with both you and her son. If you tried to make her chose, she'd almost certainly choose her son. As stated by others blood is thicker than water.
Originally Posted by KitCat
Hopefully MIL will cool down texting.
Is this an example of disempowering yourself and empowering another? You control whether and how often you stay in contact with his MIL, based on whether that contact improves or worsens your life.
I paused some mutual friendships after BD. Up to you what works best for you.
My g/f is a divorcee and told her MIL she'd go to any family events her ex isn't invited to. Her ex is disinvited from 2-4 family events per year. Some blood runs thinner than others, lol.
Originally Posted by KitCat
I thought by letting them know I was thinking of them that was enough for them to know I felt no ill will.
Sounds reasonable.
Originally Posted by KitCat
MIL still wants to come to S18 graduation - though that has been cancelled due to C19, but asked about a party down the road for him.
Would your S18 enjoy that? (:
I had a shared celebration with my ex-wife when our kids graduated. My g/f would not stand in the way of her MIL throwing a party for her S, but would only attend if the ex wasn't there. Choices.
