Today is a new day and I'm sorry you have a headache. Could it be that the headache is stress related? You've had a lot going on at work and at home this week.
Yes - and probably side effect of AD's I started taking since BD so I wasn't CRYING in front of H.
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I am going to suggest that you try not to over analyze every word or action he takes. The more you try to do this, the more upset and annoyed you will get. Right now, he's a very unhappy man and he thinks that the rainbow across the street is going to provide him his freedom and make his life easier. Maybe it will and maybe it won't...but you can't control the outcome for him...but you can control your outcome and face anything that is thrown your way.
I can only control myself. I am in control of my reactions to anything H throws at me.
He is certainly emanating that he is happy about so many things... cooking more... have more social time with friends... reconnecting with friends...
I get it. He felted trapped here. He was isolated. I became that reason for the feelings of being trapped and isolated and now those are no more... he if free and he is happy. With the extra free time with not working he is building stronger relationship with his parents.
I'm over here looking less and less attractive.
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As for your MIL, I would limit my contact w/her. She may be fishing for info and then again maybe not...but whatever the reason...limit the contact and when she asks for help again w/a pet, refer her to someone else or another web page on the interest...but get yourself out of the loop w/her for the time being. I know you want to help..but right now, the only person that needs your assistance is you. Could your MIL be trying to connect w/you because of what she has on FB? Maybe she wants to fish to see if you've seen her postings. Whatever the reason, distance yourself from her as much as possible. Blood is thicker than water.
Hopefully MIL will cool down texting. I'm sure H saw that she was tagged in my post from my business about this pet??? Probably asked if we had had contact?
Last Tuesday night he stated that his parents were hurt because I did not want them at my house - who knows what he actually said to them? But I clarified to H is was the circumstance and NOT that I did not like his parents.
While I contacted MIL to let them know I was thinking about them in regards to virus... I did not mention H or that H told me they were feeling hurt by me. I thought by letting them know I was thinking of them that was enough for them to know I felt no ill will.
MIL still wants to come to S18 graduation - though that has been cancelled due to C19, but asked about a party down the road for him.
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As for FB, I wouldn't be on that unless it was to connect w/your side of the family and friends. Otherwise, radio silence for a while.
I had been avoiding but there was some very important family stuff going on - that is our group "message" area.
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From this day forward, I would not say another word to your h about you needing your space...actions speak louder than words. Just don't respond to his text messages...silence is golden. He fired you as a wife and companion. Time for him to man up and do the necessary work.
Most likely can't get all his stuff on Sunday... but will do my best not to engage.
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Tomorrow...hold your head up, back straight, and dress nicely. You want to do these things to bring that confidence level up and let it shine for all to see. Keep your expectations at zero at all times. KK, you can do this. Once he's gotten his stuff, there should be no reason and/or excuse for him to return there. If he contacts you after removing all of his stuff, then just say when I have time, I'll look for it. Nothing says you have to jump through hoops for him.
Yes - as soon as I am off work I will be going home to concentrate making the home the best it can be... and figuring out what I should wear that will look the best. Looking for something he has not seen me wear in a long time! I will leave my ring on. I'm still committed to the M even though he is not. I know at some point I will have to remove it.
Step Son overseas continued to talk and asked if I was still willing to help with reduced/free tickets for airline travel to get back home once he is stateside --- I said of course!!! I told him he could contact me whenever for whatever always. He stated he appreciated that.
I just texted back just a few days ago overhearing S18 online connecting with his friends since we are all under quarantine about his "Step B who is in military... some story of the two of them at the kitchen table discussing something" . I just let him know the memory made me smile. I realized that there were tough times in a blended family but happy that the positive ones are what we typically walk away with.
SS20 knows that I'm sad too over his dad. But that as long as his dad feels that this is what he wants there is nothing I can do about it. He stated he knows.
I feel relaxed that SS20 knows he can reach out to me if he needs anything. Right before BD he was in touch regularly with help with his taxes... he doesn't contact his mom over that ... or his dad... but every year he contacts me about help with his taxes. :-)
