Terrible headache this morning. Not the easiest night for sleep. Sometimes I really am okay. Others i just want to pick up the phone and beg him to reconsider everything. I know that would be stupid.
With all the texting from my MIL this week... I just want to ask her... is he moving OW into his new house??? Also stupid but there is where my mind has been in the last 24hr.
In the words of Dory from Nemo... Just keep swimming... Just keep swimming... Just keep swimming.
On Wednesday all I heard is "look how great my life is without this commute"... "look how great my life is now that I've got a big social circle and reconnecting with all my high school friends"... "my life is going great"... Yes, there was some eye contact and conversation but he was still cold... still distant.
Originally Posted by job
With all that is going on right now in your situation, I may be wrong, but I don't see this chapter of your life ending any time soon. The courts are pretty much shut down, paperwork may or may not get filed, but to me, this man is still very much tied to you. Look at how many times he contacts you about stuff. He's still relying on you to take care of him and his issues.
Hang in there.
I had already told my atty that I had wanted this process to be WAY slowed down. I filed for Legal S and we have a date of separation 3 weeks ago. Since then there has been no forward motion due to courts being shut down. I'm okay with that.
Is H relying on me??? I look back and while there has been a lot of contact from his end ITS all about him. He needs me to drop financial order. He needs to get his stuff. He needs affidavit. He needs to have access to a printer/scanner. Sure he is disrupting my life but its all about him and what he needs to get out of this life and move on to the next.
When I changed the locks and such I made it clear he needed to respect my space. There have been 2 comments about that since... "KC, I'm trying to respect your need to be left alone as much as I can" and more recently when I tried to end a phone a few days ago that was going badly where I stated I needed to go, I needed some space. H replied "you've had plenty of space, that's all I've done is give you space. Let me have my stuff and its all your space".
I don't believe H isn't contacting me outside his needs because I've asked for space/to be left alone? The longest he has gone without contacting me is 4 days.
Job you said he is still very much tied to me. Yes, he is. We still have a lot of joint things to settle. But, being tied to me doesn't mean he is not 100% done with me? I have not seen any indication that he thinks anything other than this plan of a new life and new house and new people.
Trying to hang in there and not give in to those strong gut feelings of doing the wrong moves.
