I will be cordial. I will not start conversations. I will not ask him any questions.
Perfect!
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When he left on Wednesday he was telling me how to handle the grass issue in the back yard. Then stated if I got hinges he would fix the gates. I said I would have no idea what type of hinge and would probably get the wrong ones so not to worry. He said he would go pick some up and try to get it done on Sunday.
WAS's are weird like this. I think it's some guilt, they realize they are hurting us so this is their feeble attempt to make up for it. My XW dropped the bomb right before my bday and got me nothing. Then a few weeks later she bought me an expensive tool set for Father's Day. Of course I tried to dissect that move and figure out what it meant, but there's no figuring it out.
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He was trying to be friendly???.
The more you can back off and remove pressure then the more friendly he will be. I think Job said it earlier but if you just go along with their desire to leave then they will be more cordial and friendly because they no longer feel the need to push you away.
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.. Ultimately the comments he was making were more of "see how great my life is now"... now that I don't have this commute and I have a social life "my life is really great".
I doubt it's so great but he's probably trying to convince himself it is.
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AS - you are right. He isn't missing me... thinking about me... he is annoyed by be... disgusted by me... Sunday is going to be tough day for sure.
It'll be tough. I'm sorry you have to go through it. And you will feel sorrow afterwards for a while. But I think you'll start feeling better after that, you'll start getting used to it as your "new normal". I know it's little consolation now but some day you will look back at all this and wonder how someone had so much control over your emotional state. You'll be stronger, more independent, more self-sufficient. You'll wonder that you reacted as emotionally as you did. Time works wonders, it really does. Try to give yourself the gift of time.
