Just stopped by to say I'm rooting for you. You've been brave keeping (reasonable) terms front and center--if she wants to return, she needs to drop the OM, be transparent, and work on the relationship.
So many branch points--in another situation there was a pause between dropping OM/OW and being ready to work on the relationship, many where reconciliation was just "going through the motions", some where OM1 not being excited enough was simply followed by OM2, OM3, and OM4.
If she returns, a long road ahead. Keep that good head on your shoulders.
