I don't want a divorce II NEW THREAD Pt 9

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The question about wearing your ring...that is a very personal issue for each person and I tend to think that if you feel comfortable wearing it then by all means. After all, you are still married and no paperwork has been filed, stamped and dated yet. What are your thoughts on wearing it? Do you feel comfortable doing so or do you have another ring you can put on that finger to replace the bands?

As for the chicken and noodles sounds delicious and the aroma will fill the house. Look your best, put that perfume on and be friendly...but not overly friendly or chatty.

I know you miss and love him...but for now, you have to be strong and look at this as a business deal. It's going to take a long time for him to realize what he is missing and could very well lose.

KC, we all have made mistakes and it is what we learn from those mistakes that helps guide us along this path. If something is working, then continue it. If something isn't working, stop doing it. Here's something that I always say, think of this as a dance and your h is your partner...allow him to lead and you follow when it comes to interactions w/him. There may be times when he actually mirrors your behavior..don't get discouraged. Stay the course. The more you don't react to his comments and behavior, the better. When he realizes that you are moving forward and not sitting around waiting for his texts or calls, the sooner he'll get the message that life is moving forward for you.

With all that is going on right now in your situation, I may be wrong, but I don't see this chapter of your life ending any time soon. The courts are pretty much shut down, paperwork may or may not get filed, but to me, this man is still very much tied to you. Look at how many times he contacts you about stuff. He's still relying on you to take care of him and his issues.

Hang in there.