This time is extremely important and as you have been following OS2’s thread you know that this could be a false start. You just need to hold your ground until you start seeing some actions from her. She has to drive the bus. I have a feeling by your post that this is going to be difficult and you are going to try to force it.
You really need to temper your expectations right now. In the early part of my situation my ex wanted to try again because she felt it was the right thing to do not because she wanted to. It just prolonged the inevitable.
