Just opening up my new thread. Not a lot to report. I sent H the text as advised (thank you Scout!) and a few hours later got “ok thank you” in response.
Since then H is being overly nice, trying to connect with me, complimenting my hair, etc. It’s much easier for me to remain cordially distant at this point. Largely because I’m angry and disappointed with him over the way he’s interacted with me and treated me in regard to the coparenting conflict we dealt with. I’m barely responding to him and his attempts at connection with me, unless it’s directly about D4.
In all honesty, there is still a part of me saying “wait! He’s trying to connect with you! Don’t be discouraging!” But I’m ignoring her. And reminding her that listening to her in the past hasn’t gotten me anywhere good. And telling her to remember his recent poor treatment of me. That helps.
It’s somewhat frustrating and annoying that he tries so hard to connect with me now that I’m consistently pulling away from him, considering the obvious fact that he is getting what he says he wants. But you were right Scout, taking control of the narrative a bit by turning down his paltry offer of a “talk” was empowering.
I have lots to keep me busy during this very lonely and isolating time. Lots of time with my daughter, a very rigorous and time consuming job search, etc.
