Right now, you have to change the way that you look at him. He's a roommate and you can be courteous and friendly, i.e., just as you would anyone that you come face to face with. That being said, he's not friend material at the moment. He is only thinking of himself and what wants to make himself feel better. I know that what we say here is contradictory to what most people would think to do or say, but it is necessary to drop the rope and allow him the time and space to figure himself out.
I would continue to go about my way and if he wants to talk, listen and validate. If he's chatty enough, you just might be able to pick up some of what is on his mind. Yes, you are concerned about the health crisis right now and rightly so for everyone. Now, when he gets in one of those moods and wants to pick a fight...don't get into it w/him. There are times when they do this to bait us into arguing w/them...it gives them a justification for what they are doing or plan to do. You can always say "I'm sorry you feel that way" and see how he reacts or you can say that you will discuss it further w/him when he calms down. Try to remember...you can't rationalize w/someone who is emotionally irrational, angry, depressed or anxious.
You have to have faith and hope that things will work out, but you do have to drop that rope, focus on yourself and what you need to do about the finances, bank accounts, etc. I hope that you are watching your credit cards and bank accounts closely...because he could very well be spending money that isn't on your radar.
This is the time for you to focus on yourself, do the things that you've put off doing, i.e., make a list of those things and start checking them off, go for a walk, get out and get a coffee, get take out and go so outside and just enjoy the fresh air. These things will help you focus on something other than your h during this crisis. I don't use the words "move on", but I do use the words "move forward) and that is what you would be doing by doing some of the things that I suggested you do. If and when he opts to return to the relationship, he will have a lot of hard work to do in order to earn your trust again. Don't sweep this incident under the rug because at some point, it will need to be discussed and dealt with...but that is much further down the road.
For now, again, focus on you and what you need to do to heal yourself, take the time to grieve for the death of the relationship and know that no matter what happens, you are going to be fine. No matter what happens, we are here for you. Continue to have faith, hope and one more thing....dig deeper for patience. If you are tempted to say or do something out of anger, hurt, etc., come here to vent. We have very strong shoulders for posters to lean on.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
