The one thing I keep going back to is that I know in my heart that if I had my own life and didn't depend on him and other people to fulfill my joy so many issues wouldn't have become issues. I've always had a problem depending on people to fill voids in my life and in fact every single relationship I've ever had has come to an end because of that.
I'm afraid that if I let go completely we both will move on and it just seems like that's contradictory to why people are here, to prevent divorce. I just wish this wasnt all so confusing.
Hi Pharm75,
I'd challenge this thinking. Suppose you let go and tried to be the best version of yourself. I suspect for you that'd mean staying single and learning to depend on yourself instead of others. After say 3 months, what would cause you to download Tinder, instead of making another go with your ex?
Note, I am NOT saying you should let go completely.
