I am doing exactly what my atty tells me to do. I haven't taken a single step without notifying her first. The minute he wanted the affidavit I was in touch with atty. Gave her ALL the info and then did and wrote EXACTLY what she told me.
I thought I had set boundaries --- I was FIRM on day and time to get some of the larger items. He was NOT happy with my choice in day and time and did throw a tantrum but I did not cave.
As to the printer/scanner I was surprised he not NO other options outside coming all the way to the house. I told him I did not have ANY plans that included him coming into the house so I was not comfortable with him doing so BUT, I told him if it was his only option it was going to be X,Y and Z only.
I dictated:
I would pick him up (the letting him drive may not have been the best option but I'm supposed to do a 180's right? THAT was a 180 from typically I drive). He would LEAVE totes for me to pack up his clothes (he had baulked previously stating he didn't trust me) He could use the computer for X things He would only leave with his mail and motorcycle... I don't understand why he couldn't have the second key fob for the bike??? He literally took nothing else as per my instructions We would print out agreement for value on bike. (He got his license from me 2 weeks ago)
When he left he stated Sunday right? I said yes. He wanted Saturday but I said it did not work for me. I was firm and did not give. He did exactly as I directed on everything. He even on his own took the time to get the mower going - I had told him not to worry about it. I would handle it.
I thought I stood my ground. But, maybe I did not?
YES - my biggest mistake was asking for that ride. He didn't even look up or acknowledged I asked. BUT, I knew that was likely and I did act as if and let it roll off my back. I didn't whine or beg at all.
He did exactly what I told him. I was calm and cordial. Not overly nice... friendly like a neighbor. By doing what I asked he has shown I can trust him to some extent.
I get what you are saying. That night he was very much throwing a temper tantrum and NOT getting his way... so of course he would hurl things like I'm not letting him go just like his XW
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3. He most likely checked out the place to see what had changed or to get an idea of what he will return to pick up.
What did you mean he was checking out the place to see what had changed???
He is not taking a single piece of furniture outside his recliner - the only piece of furniture he brought with him when we married. He will take some outdoor equipment that he owned prior to our M and frankly I don't think they work or work well. His personal clothing. He won't be able to get it all in one visit.
He is returning on Sunday to get ^^^^^. Advice on what I can do different when he is getting more of his things?
