1 year out is not a lot. I’m 5 years BD and it really does get better. I was mad at ex for a long time. I still think he’s a pos but I have become indifferent. Our relationship was horrible. I was lonely and unhappy. I dated 2 other guys that were losers and that just made me even more unhappy. Now I’m with someone that just treats me so well and I could care less about what ex is doing.
Now I am not saying you need a partner or successful relationship to feel that way. I’m just saying you can feel that way because time does heal. And it’s normal to feel that way about someone who treated you bad. I get sick driving by my lawyers office and hearing their name or receiving an email from them. That’s because they took and advantage and abused me. Same things as our ex”s . Just accept that your still feeling that way because someone exploited you and then tell yourself “that’s because of who he is, not who you are and your better off alone then with someone capable of treating people like that”
I felt so bad about the first woman my ex got serious about. 3 years later I found out he was real sketchy with her too and left or cheated on her for a girl 10 years younger. He even twisted things to make her feel the real up was something she did - when she was just getting suspicious about him. This younger girl has no kids and is Gonna waste her child bearing years on him thinking he can commit or afford it or is a responsible dad. And now I’m just thinking how glad i am to not have to deal with him. All he is, is a life stealer and now I am not wasting any more of my life on him. I bet this is similar to your sitchbas well
