He went on to state his parents were going to help and they were hurt when he told them I did not want them here.
"It must have been hard delivering that news and seeing them hurting."
Originally Posted by KitCat
I told H I had nothing against his parents. It did not feel cool to have his parents there helping to move my H out of our marital home. He got upset said I was being difficult and controlling.
Ok - so I should have said - "I'm sorry you are angry about me being difficult"???
"I get you're frustrated you believe I'm controlling many details of the move-out."
I would not justify your policy, apologize for his feelings, or accept his view that you're difficult and controlling. Again, it's also certainly fine to NOT validate when someone complains about you. Validation is about showing you get and empathize with their feelings, not that you agree with them.
Ok those are gold... why is it so hard when someone is venting at you to come up with such magic on your own!
