H is blowing up my phone with texts this afternoon.
That's okay. His blowing up or not blowing up is for him to manage. If you "Hide Alerts" on your phone, you won't even see his blow-up until several hours later.
Originally Posted by KitCat
H:Saturday morning works best for me. Me: I'm working it will have to be Sunday... after 2pm Me: you will still need to call before the weekend H: Well I can do Saturday after 2 as well Me: Saturday after 5pm
Watch for shifting boundaries--you state it HAS to be Sunday, then agree to Saturday. This makes it hard for your ex to know which boundaries are real and which are negotiable. I also wonder if what you want to call him about could be stated in an e-mail. E-mails can slow down discussions when you're prone to get emotional. I believe you read CA_Hope's thread. That's where she's moving a discussion about co-parenting because she believes it's a sensitive and important topic.
Me: "Any day I'm in town is okay." Her: "I would prefer Day 0 [day I'm away] because blah blah blah" Her: "Day D1-D6 work for me." Me: "Day D1, D2, or D4 are best for me. Let me know when you select a time." Her: "Blah blah blah" Her: "Blah blah blah" Her: "Blah blah blah" Her: "So day D1. Is Time T okay?" Me: Thumbs-up.
Originally Posted by KitCat
H: Why wait so long Me: not sure I understand question
You don't need to humor WHY questions. It's like scheduling a root canal. The dentist's assistant doesn't need to know WHY you want a Saturday (because you want to save your PTO day that pay period for a trip to Vegas with an old college boyfriend) she just needs to know you're free Saturday 1-3pm.
