Your membership card is tied to his charge card...time to be proactive and contact that company and change your card number to the one that is in your name only. If you don't have a card in your name only, apply for one this week.
Yes, they actually do get uptight when they see charges on their card and yes, they want every penny that is charged whether it is 1 dollar or 15. Money is very important to them and once they've set their mind that they want out...it gets worse because they do not want to be responsible for anything that belongs to us. So, yes, I can see him getting a little bent out of shape over the 15 dollars. BTW, to him it wasn't dumb to ask about the charges.
You really do need to keep the focus on you. Yes, he will notice everything, but may not say anything about it. Are you going to have someone there w/you when he comes over? The reason that I ask is that you two tend to get into heated discussion over finances and this is one time you don't want to do it. Refer him to your lawyer and walk away from him, change the subject or go into another room, but don't discuss taking the lock down off of that account.
Don't hold your breath about him taking the puppy w/him. Many of them do not want that responsibility and will leave the animals w/the spouse and use that as an excuse to come see them.
Keep the focus on you, have your house in good shape, dress nicely, perfume on and have something baking in the oven that will provide a nice, warm smell in the home. You want him to leave w/positive thoughts of the home he is running away from. You don't want him to leave w/a lot of negative thoughts and run right to the ow who will stroke his ego and tell him what he wants to hear.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
