I'm trying really hard to project the happy carefree person - I do my hair and my makeup every day despite not leaving the house. I smile and use a calm voice.
I'm struggling with the whole distant but happy part. Do I initiate conversations? How do I respond when he's joking around and being flirty?
I also need help with the 180. I don't argue my opinion on things that don't matter (which I used to defend my position no matter what), I sit in the evenings (by myself) and do my own thing instead of constantly cleaning (easier since I'm home all day now) But his biggest issue with me was that I didn't initiate intimacy. Certainly can't do that now, do I just leave that one alone?
I also need advice - he has found a place and can work on it in lieu of first and last months rent in order to make it affordable. He wants to stay here while he does that. It would help me financially and give me more time to save up. We would split the finances and take him off the now joint account. I told him I needed to think about it. I have and it makes the most sense to do it that way. So do I wait for him to bring it up? Do I tell him? Can I do it in email?
