Hope ~ I have a ton of thoughts but I am watching my kids this evening =)
Regarding co-parenting, I've been in the same place as you... wanting to co-parent amicably, etc. I realized recently that, although my goal is admirable, it is probably a year or two down the road once we get through this D before my STBXW and I can really co-parent that way, if ever.
I took a co-parenting class offered through my county and it was fantastic. The whole point was how to handle things on your end... keep the kids out of it, stay cool and business-like, you can only control you. I think trying to connect emotionally with your H right now on co-parenting is probably not going to help you work through your own feelings, and you may want to adopt the "friendly business" relationship approach.
scout's advice is incredible. I know it's hard, two months ago I would have thought "that sounds so harsh and extreme." It's not. It's you asserting yourself as someone of extremely high value and self-worth.
