Ok, in light of my new approach, I need advice for how to handle what’s come up.

The short background is that I’m the recent weeks H breached my trust in regard to a verbal co parenting agreement we had. He handled it very poorly when it first came to light. A few days later I got a half a$$ed apology via text and that was it.
Shortly after that, he told me he’d seen a counselor for help with coparenting stuff and had a Coparenting book he wanted me to read with him, and wanted me to talk about his stuff around it. I didn’t handle it well; I got upset and told him I’d be willing to discuss whatever he wanted re: coparenting, but that I wasn’t willing to brush his breaching of our agreement under the rug, and that I wanted to settle that first. He became defensive and stonewalled again, and that was the night he told me that walking out on me was a “dream come true”. He then immediately texted me that it was “horribly mean, Im sorry, I didn’t mean that, I just can’t be a good listener right now”. I didn’t respond and we haven’t spoken much since.

So, now I’m really focused on going as LRT with him as possible. And he’s proposing a talk. It is in regards to coparenting, which unfortunately I do have to discuss. He just sent this text and I’d like advice on how to respond and how to handle what he’s proposing:


“Hello can you tell [D4] hello for me?

I have been feeling like [censored] since we fought and I really want to get past it. I feel guilty and frustrated, and I’m sure you have some negative feelings as well. If that means having another discussion then, ok.
I really feel strongly about reading this book together and figuring out a plan for us and [D4]. I want to be on the same page with co-parenting, etc.
If that means having a hard talk to make you feel better then that’s what I’d like to do. Would you be willing to read the book if I have the discussion you and get somewhere with it?”


I’d love advice and guidance as I’m really trying to close the door with him, and this is a tough one. I don’t trust myself to handle this well!