Hitting My Stride V

[Dawn70]

I don’t doubt that she loves her child. And I don’t doubt that she is a hard worker who has a TON on her plate right now. I’m not a psychologist and certainly don’t claim to know all the facts but the more you say about him and the more you offer excuses for her the more it makes me wonder what more could be done to help both of them. Crying when going from one activity to another seems very extreme and there must be a root cause. I’m sure she is a kind hearted person or you wouldn’t let her around your daughters. I imagine, being a doctor in a time of pandemic plus trying to get a new business off the ground just take extraordinary strength to deal with.

And maybe I’m wrong but I just don’t see why sports is the be all end all. Is that how she feels or is that her trying to impress you because you are clearly a very sports oriented guy. Does she somehow associate that with manliness? And as far as her saying he needs to grow a pair vs. you being the one who called him a pu$$y....kind of the same difference there. It is HER job as his parent to help him learn to be a man and if she doesn’t have his father helping her with that then she needs to figure it out. You say she didn’t play sports and “turned out fine”. I can give you a laundry list of people who didn’t play sports and are rather successful. And I can give you a similar list of people who did play sports who are not at all successful. Some people are social and some aren’t but the more you describe her so the more it sounds like something other than just not being social which circles me back, in my mind, to him feeling like he has to have her approval and her putting a LOT of pressure on him. I guess my overall point here is that it all just kind of seems like a recipe for disaster because if he is like this now, at 8, can you imagine how he’ll be when teenage hormones are thrown into the mix???? And all of it makes the doc come across as pretty high strung too, which may be where he gets it because kids model the behavior they see the most.