Hitting My Stride V

[Dawn70]

I agree with bttrfly that these are not small differences, but that is really for you and the doc to work through. I will offer a different but agreeing viewpoint if I may. There are a TON of activities this kid can be involved in if he isn’t into sports. Yeah, I know you think scouts is nerdy and I get your point about him valuing what the doc thinks is important but don’t ALL kids do that? There are music lessons, art classes, 4-H, boys and girls club.....LOTS of options. I get the doc is busy and she has certain expectations but I worry about this kid. He’s adopted and whether he knows he is or not, he is craving her approval and she’s pushing him to be a mini adult. I fear that won’t end well for this kid. I had a student who was like this as a little boy.....his parents pushed him HARD and he was kind of isolated. They did lighten up on him when he got to high school and he blossomed and was very popular, well-liked by teachers, intelligent, hard-working and a good enough baseball player to get recruited by a few colleges. Then the pressure came back as his parents tried to make sure he chose the “right” school. He got so stressed out, he killed himself right before his class graduated from high school. SO sad. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying the kid will mill himself or the doc will drive him to it but she is just putting a LOT of pressure on a kid to do things that are important to her rather than letting him figure out what might be important to him and that is very sad.