I know those are just little things but that is where it starts. Which is why I am not in a rush. We have had no conversations about how we would come together to raise our kids if a blended family were to happen.
No. These are not little things. These are fundamental differences. sorry J xoxo
I'm an only child. My mother was 39 when I was born, which, 55 years ago, was a big deal. Her peers were becoming grandmothers. She isolated me in part because she didn't have anything in common with my peers' moms, who were all at least 10-15 years younger than my mom.
As the mother of a male only child, my priority was to socialize that kid as much as possible. My son at 20 has thanked me for making sure that he always had playdates and friends who were female as well as male, and modeling that for him as well with T (brother from another mother). He says he had a great childhood, because he was involved in team sports, one every season. Team sports are a very effective way for an only child to learn interpersonal skills that can only be taught by interaction with siblings or peers.
Is it a lot of work to haul a kid around to practice? Yes, but it's worth it, for the kid's long term emotional IQ. JMHO.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
