It's his mom's fault. His dad is not involved in his life outside of what their D decree tells him he has to do. So all the real parenting falls on the Doc. Well actually probably his nanny who is an expert on the kids behavior and is with him 4 hours a day, 3 days a week. The doc has him on Fridays after school and on Wednesdays his Grandma picks him up after school.
It is not the way I am nor my X.
The life the kid leads is what is favorable to the Doc and she admits she has not done a good job of socializing him with other kids. I don't know to what extent though he comes home and requests to go play with Johnny or whoever either.
It does impact how I think about the Doc. I certainly don't ignore it and my girls are extremely different. They may not be as smart as the Doc's kid, as versed in Spanish or bible scripture but they are certainly more well rounded. The Doc is very nice to my girls though however they are talkative, active and want to be where ever I am at. All of us under one roof would be a huge adjustment, even for the Doc, who likes her space, quiet time, etc.. We treat our kids vastly different.
For example, the other day I ordered pizza and my girls got Cokes and the Docs kid wanted Root Beer. No biggie. When she got over to my house she wouldn't let him have the Root Beer, I guess he only drinks diet soda. Stuff like that won't go over well in a blended house because I am certainly not going to have my girls walk on eggshells or suffer just because he can't have it. Same with bed times, she starts his process at 7 pm. My girls go to bed at 8:30 and when they don't have school I could care less. She never deviates off his schedule.
I know those are just little things but that is where it starts. Which is why I am not in a rush. We have had no conversations about how we would come together to raise our kids if a blended family were to happen.
