Originally Posted by "Letter" What would you like me to do? Hire a babysitter or my mom etc and expose her potentially?
How worried are you about your ex-wife exposing your D to her mom or a babysitter? (I assume her mom can decide for herself whether or not to watch your kid and how to best protect herself.)
Her mom works in a nursing home and continues to work through all of this. So it probably isn't a good idea. A babysitter, I don't know about that but it also probably isn't good. My D has an autoimmune deficiency so we need to take extra care.
My W knows I have offered to take her when she needs to go into the office. If she is working from home, then she needs to take care of our D on her days...it is no different than me working from home. So all of that talk in her letter is old news...probably b/c it took her 5 weeks to write it. Honestly, I am just as worried my W bringing Corona home to my D and therefore, me too. But when I brought his up she stated that she is full protective gear. Also, she doesn't work with Corona patients, only pediatric non-sick issues (immunizations and physicals). But she uses Corona as a reason for not being able to talk or do anything because she so stressed. I don't doubt she is stressed but she is hiding behind Corona as to why she is really stressed.
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I am so sick of fighting and wish we could just have talks without arguing and that seems to be few and far between and I know I am guilty of that. I just get so frustrated and feel like you still want to tell me how and what to feel.
These are good 180s to strive for if any part of them rings true. Fighting, arguing, and controlling others is rarely necessary and aren't good relationship patterns.
The only arguments have been about me kicking her out 2 weeks ago when she was hanging out with us (cake eating) and I asked if she still was in contact with the OM. When she said she was still talking to him, I told her to leave. She became explosive; "I hate you. I am going to punch you in the face, etc. etc." She is the one who argues I stand my ground on my expectations. She wants me to allow her back to the house and pretend like everything is fine while she still talks to the OM? No, that will not happen.
I do see some progress in her ability to show remorse. And even though I want our family to be able to spend a few hours with each other, I know I am inviting her to eat cake (thanks LH). But doing this alone now for weeks is eating at me. I thought maybe with a little progress, I could give in a little. But I guess not.
