You are doing so very well. Continue as you have been. No pressure gives ample time for H to slowly work on his feelings. You are staying out of the line of fire and not adding fuel to his justifications - well done!
Why did he say “yes, I do love your mommy”? Because he does. And at that moment his feelings were not buried.
Of course, feelings do change. Watch his actions, and only about half of those. His words, believe very few.
Say nothing about the medical insurance questionnaire (it sounds like it is not needed anyhow). Do not bring up the divorce or questions about it. Leave everything well alone. Let him lead the conversations and remain cordial. Focus on you and D3.
Originally Posted by CanBird
IF there was a chance 00 had a change of heart, I'd be willing to work through things. What was once can be better a new? Crazy? Who knows.
Okay friends. Help me get back on track.
There is a chance. There’s always hope.
Your best chance is to focus on you and D3. To heal yourself. To give plenty of time and space, for H to have a change of heart.
Bargaining with one’s self is a good sign of progress towards acceptance. It’s rather amazing where we can find ourselves. Emotional understanding. Acceptance.
I like that you’d be willing to work through things. I remember having those same thoughts and feelings. Make them a belief, a value, a conviction - and keep moving forward. These ideals are seeds of forgiveness; sow them and nurture them well. This is so much for you.
Dig for patience. You are doing really great.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
