Thank you KT! I definitely think you have been very strong at times!
Just keep DBing! Find you center, so to say.
I still have hope too and definitely some sadness/sorrow from time to time. But I have come to REALLY realize that for anything to happen with us again there is a VERY long road ahead. Longer than our sitch (almost a year now).

With regards to the house, it is our house that we own together. We typically spend a lot of the summertime here since we are close to the water.
How do ppl typically handle vacation time? We will switch to one week each with the kids.


Short journal:
Had a good weekend with the kids and my brother.
As mentioned on another thread I have some issues with porn. Any tips here would help!
Anyway, I realized that very often when I get aroused for some reason (too often porn) I start thinking about W and OM and then I just feel appalled. Have to really focus to not think about them having sex.
Really an irritating trait that I sure hope goes away soon!

Tonight I have been thinking a bit about W. Stayed busy with cleaning the house and some computer games.
Not sure I will ever understand the lack of logical judgement in her actions. So stupid...


Me: 34
Stbxw: 30
D:5 D:3
Mini bd: May/June 2019
Married: Aug 2019
BD: 6th Dec 2019
OM Confirmed: Feb 2020
March 2020: I filed for D
Waiting for D to be finalized and W to move out end of January 2021