I’m sorry you are here, dealing with this These kinds of mixed messages are insanely confusing and they can REALLY mess with your head. I know from LOTS of experience that reading into them and trying to decipher their meaning only makes it worse. Waaaay easier said than done, but the more you can just notice them and not assign meaning, the easier it will be on you. The way I get through them at this point is to tell myself in my mind “this means nothing”. Because honestly, as far as the LBS is concerned, it usually does mean nothing. That’s not to say that there is no reason he is doing what he’s doing, just that unless it comes with him telling and showing you he wants to reconcile, it’s immaterial.
