I always kept up with your thread as well, thanks for coming back to write to me!
I completely agree with what you are suggesting. I WANT to go this route for my own sake, and I know it’s what my situation needs. I think I must truly be experiencing a level of cognitive dissonance I didn’t know my brain was capable of, because otherwise I don’t know why I’m apparently doing so poorly at it!!! I am so ready for a new approach!!! I am so ready to make him believe the door is closed, and to hopefully do such a good job of faking it that I start to feel it too.
I really, truly want to do that. I keep doing things that feel like I’m doing that, but I think maybe I’m not consistent enough with myself, and therefore in my actions? I think I’ve been sloooowwwwwwly closing that door, but I need to firmly shut it and let the latch click. I’m just not sure what I’m doing wrong?
I’m frustrated because I swear on everything I am on board with what you are saying, and yet somehow I’m not succeeding at it. I’m gonna spend some time thinking about the choices I’m making that are not setting me up for success with the LRT approach I KNOW I need to employ, for my situation and for my own well being.
I REALLY appreciate this Scout, and I welcome any and all advice/thoughts/etc. I want to make this switch, I guess I just need extra help
