And CW, I'm just using an app as an escape and talking to women.
It is a DATING site! Make all the excuses you want......but at the end of the day, those women are there b/c they are looking for someone to date. Why must you find an escape by talking to women???
Words of affirmation, validation, ego food, escapism, fantasizing .......call it what you will, but that is exactly how an EA started for me.
Now explain to me how you can kick your W out of the house for contacting OM, but it's okay for you to talk to women on a dating site. I laughed when you said there was nothing inappropriate. The fact that it is a dating site, period, seems inappropriate for a married man who claims he wants to save his M.
You are already talking about meeting to walk the dogs or go hiking, which means you want to explore beyond just talking. Listen, I get the whole confidence builder thing, but that's one of the hidden dangers and how easily it turns into an EA/PA. Your W is in contact with OM, b/c of how good it makes her feel.
Just seems a bit hypocritical.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
