What you said all makes perfect sense to ME. It's like a doctor telling his patient you have to do x, y and z to get better and you cannot skip x, y or z. In order for the operation to be a success or for you to have any chance of survival we must do x, y and z.
OW needs professional help, my H is a long way from being a substitute. My H is bandaid as OW is a bandaid to my H...it's covering up both of their problems right now and eventually that bandaid won't cover up anything.
Quote: He may not understand what you are talking about at first, but you have planted the seed and the Lord can do the rest from there. You do not have to do this for the Lord, but you can and should plant the seed. It is kind of like what you are going through. No one has to give you the answer, but if they can direct you or plant a seed, the Lord can go from there. You have a direction.
I was beginning to feel a little overwhelmed by some of this, but planting a seed is something I can handle.
Quote: I may not always get what they are saying at first and sometimes I may even get upset with what they have said, but it gives me information to think about. He can start opening it up for me a piece at a time until it all comes together. There is such relief after that happens. The Lord has given you much knowledge and now is your time to share it with your husband.
This is what I feel I am up to doing for my H at this point, sharing my knowledge with him, baby steps. I don't want H to think I'm forcing him to come to or find what I found, but that he needs to do what works best for H. I can share with him what I know and H can either take it or leave it.
Also, isn't part of what H is going through MLC, doesn't he have to crash at some point..on his own? I think he's headed there right now. OW seems to be putting on the pressure, but H is opening up again about OW to me, there are little new changes I've seen in H even since this past weekend.
Something rather strange happend last night. H came in to the bathroom and says to me "I can't beleive it you're reading the bible now?" I looked at him like WHAT THE and said you told me last you were reading it I said to H that I had never read it before and asked H if he had and he said not all of it, different parts though and as H was walking away I said "there's lots of good stuff in there." The way it was said by H, the way I interpeted it was that H was trying to bring it to my attention. I mean he KNEW it was there, He even said he had read it and then last night he acted like it was the first time he saw it there...can't quite figure it out.
Thank you Laurie for being here for me, you are my angel and I really don't know where I'd be without you, you are so perseptive and in tune with me and my sitch. I'm no longer focused on the circumstances as there are always going to be circumstances in my life. I can't get caught up in all the drama, the emotions, the feelings as they are transcient.
I said to H that I had never read it before and asked H if he had and he said not all of it, different parts though and as H was walking away I said "there's lots of good stuff in there." The way it was said by H, the way I interpeted it was that H was trying to bring it to my attention. I mean he KNEW it was there, He even said he had read it and then last night he acted like it was the first time he saw it there...can't quite figure it out.
