Well me trying harder would have been violating DB principals and I would have chased, etc. The XW would of had to be the one to try harder which wasn't something she was interested in so here we are
The good thing is that she knows he is a handful. She is aware that his personality is difficult which is essentially if I am not happy no one else is happy. It just gets amplified when we are around since that puts him in a position of having to give and take. She picks and chooses her battles and really her nanny is the one that handles most of it since the doc really only is with him maybe 2 hours a day during the week.
Difficult for sure however the good thing is that I have no problems telling her and having the convo. I was diplomatic but I was honest with her about what daughters expressed to me.
The challenging part is the kids. Two adults with no kids at home not a big deal. Much more to navigate with young kids at home which is why I think most people who get divorced with young kids choose to casually date or not date all together until their kids are out of the house.
Truthfully...the doc lives 2.8 miles away. I would be perfectly fine just doing what we are currently doing for a long time. Besides she has so much on her plate right now getting married she be the last thing on her radar. She is freaked out about 100% of the time and stressing over all of what is happening right now. Then add in her XH, her kid, etc. and it is just icing on the cake.
