I'm glad the conversation went really well but something tells me you are not out of the woods yet buddy lol. Type As take a lot of pride on how they raise their children. You're in a tough spot for sure because you are trying to do the right thing but also need to look out for the best interests of your daughter. Your kids are very young so that makes it tough too. I have a feeling why study's show that when they ask divorce people if they are happier 5 years down the majority are not happier and wish they would of tried harder because this stuff is difficult . As far as post D relationships with kids you are the best we have and it seems challenging. Andy's does not look fun but that's an entire different story.
As long as marriage isn't an urgency I'm sure you will figure it out.