It sounds like, if you had 20/20 vision and could re-do your situation, you'd have pushed for space, 50% custody, and typical financial support sooner so your ex could see what "divorce" was really like?
I think I should have pushed harder for custody and financial separation sooner. Primarily for my own sanity. It's possible the side effect would have been my STBXW seeing what D is really like, I don't know. It is interesting how she seems unprepared for what is coming though.
I also didn't speak up because I was going to MC sessions where she repeatedly used the "A" word up until December. I lived in a lot of fear. It controlled me. I didn't speak up. I don't think she realizes how controlling that was. Now that I have a L she seems surprised I speak for myself. She works in a field that does not take the "A" word lightly. She knew what she was doing, and knew the potential consequences. The MC, had he thought it serious enough, would have by law had to report me. This was not a game.
Originally Posted by CWarrior
What are you doing to stay sane? For me it's been leading hikes (soon to cease) and guitar. Glad to see you posting again, unchien, and back from the archives.
Honestly not much the past week. I try to go for a mid-day walk to break up the work routine. I'm intending to try out some yoga (I like the combo of physical exercise and meditation) but struggling right now. I have my kids this weekend so that will keep me busy for a few days.
