Second, studies support that dating quickly does help you get over ex's. For example, "An empirical investigation into rebound relationships" (Brumbaugh/Fraley, 2015) says " Analyses indicated that people in new relationships were more confident in their desirability and had more resolution over their ex-partner. Among those in new relationships, the speed with which they began their relationship was associated with greater psychological and relational health."
I do think it would help me move forward. Obviously, this whole thing shot my confidence a bit. My friend had me sign up for one of these dating apps and I have received multiple "likes" and have reached out to a few. I was forthcoming on the app saying I am separated but no one knows the full extent. For me, knowing I am getting "likes" and a few asking to go for a hike, I feel more confident already. Mt W is dumb for what she did. I am successful, attractive, kind, and provided a good life. I haven't been believing that lately. I am finally realizing there are other women who will see that so it helps to meet them and feel it from them, I guess. Byt I don't want to be unethical or unfair.
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Third, that study cuts both ways as dating quickly hurt your chances of reconciliation. Those chances may seem meager now, but firemann and I learned the hard way it did have an impact.
Honestly, that is a fear. I am DB'ing but you all now in my heart I still want her back if she is willing to do the work. I am beginning to make her coming back secondary to me wanting to be free from working about the outcome so I can solely focus on myself. Hence wanting to go on a walk to help me move forward. But I don't want to make it damage any possibility of my W doing the work to get back. It is hard to balance both, I guess.
CW, what negative impact did it have on you and fireman? They found out and it stopped your chances of reconciliation?
Like CW and LH said, if I make it just a walk, just to socialize, then maybe there is no harm. These social distancing times make it very hard to GAL and socialize so maybe I will take the opportunity but keep it as a friendship for now. However, both the women I am speaking to are putting on a full-court press so I need to be careful.
