Thanks LH ~ I'm hoping at some point to do some family therapy work with the kids. This next phase of the process will be hugely disruptive to them.
It's still incredibly disappointing to me. With some effort on both sides we could have tried to repair this MR and keep that solid foundation for the kids. Now they have to adjust to their new lives while both their parents try to get their feet set again. We moved away from family 3 years ago. We don't know many people here. I guess it's better to move forward now than sit in limbo pretending that things won't change. But this is going to be hard on everyone, really hard. I feel like my W did not realize that, and perhaps she would have made different decisions if she understood those consequences. It is what it is now.
may ~ The timeline isn't clear at this point. There are so many sticking points to work through.
TBH I am back here because my anxiety is through the roof. I completely lose my appetite when I get this anxious and have to force myself to eat. My W may have made all her accusations without legal intentions in the past. But they are there and I have had to take some proactive decisions to protect myself at this point. We are so far apart on custody right now. I see no reason why we can't be going to 50-50 (pandemic aside). She wants to be close to our current 25-75 and maybe offer me a night every 2 weeks.
It's forcing me into difficult decisions, because I have no clue if she intends to use her accusations legally or not.
It seems simple: 50-50 joint custody, support payments per guidance, split assets. The long drawn-out process of slow mediation is not working for me. To give some flavor of how it has gone: My W offered a home "buyout" where we refinance the home under both names and then I stay on the loan for 2 years. Her income? My support payments! We also have spent time discussing if she does work on the house preparing it for sale if she can be compensated with a pedicure.
All this on top of trying to keep performing at work during this pandemic while I live alone... it's a lot. I know many people are struggling. I am incredibly grateful to have L representation at this point to help guide me through this.
