OW is going through what I went through and if I can make it through OW can, too. H is seeing it first hand with OW, but when I was going through it H never saw my pain, oh he saw some of it, but wouldn't acknowledge it or feel anything for ME as I was the cause of his unhappiness. Is this what the bible means when it says "you reap what you sow" or how "what goes around comes around."
I know my H can't save OW. If he thinks he can then what he will be doing is selling his soul to the devil and die a slow earthly death.
Quote: That is what he needs to understand. That your marriage is not just about sex. That you want him in your life because you choose to have him in your life and you choose to love him. That you unconditionally love him and he needs to hear those words from you.
I called H on my way into work this morning, he wouldn't answer his cell. I left the above message for him, in my own words..wasn't a very smooth flowing message, but I think he can figure it out, H is not stupid.
Quote: What he is hearing from this OW is that she needs him and will do whatever she has to in order to keep him. What is she going to do with him once she has him? Is she going to find him to be so desirable once he walks away from his family and she no longer has to fight for him? Is he going to be everything that she thinks he is? I highly doubt it. That relationship will not last because of the way that it happened between the two of them. It is destined for destruction and what will that do to your husband?
I know this Laurie, I know this will happen. It's very clear to me. I could compare it to the boat my H just bought. It took him weeks to find this boat, he went to look at numerous boats, spent time on the internet, checking the paper everyday, driving around to different marinas.and when he found this one it was exactly what he was looking for at the price he can afford right now. H was the first one there to look at and was able to purchase it before anyone else. The day he picked it up and parked it in the garage he came into the house and said "even though I have that boat I'm still not happy" So now he's a new mission, to find a more expensive bass boat. The chase was more fun, the excitement so I know once OW has him, she won't be happy, she'll be W#2 all over again.
Quote: He is screaming for someone to love him enough to help him. Do you understand what I am saying? This isn't the man that is screaming as loud as it is his soul. He wants to feel the love that only Jesus can give him. He wants a reason as to why he should leave this OW and stay with you or why he should leave you and stay with the OW.
Do I understand, maybe, yes, no...what I don't understand is what I can do to make him see. Am I to supply the reason? Or is this something he has find on his own? Or am I to show him the way, like I found the way? I've been showing him unconditional love. Last night I didn't get upset, I didn't beg him..I just let him go. I mean how crazy is that.
