MrBrside: Thank you for offering so much support. I do value your insight and appreciate your advice.
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She could go back 10 or 100 times.. Unless you make the changes as well no amount of IC will make her respect you. You need to work on yourself as well
You are completely right. I am trying to make that switch from listening to my heart and start listening to my head. I am working out, reading, and trying to stay centered and unemotional. I have gotten better but have a little more work to do. I am finally sending the message clearly to my W that I don't want to engage in convo, I don't want her to come over, that she can live any life she wants and I can do the same. I need to stay strong on that and am doing okay with it so far. Over the last 1-2 weeks, there have been LC and it has only been about my D (even though my W keeps trying to engage me). Again, I will not be an ingredient to her A.
Can I ask a question: There are a few females that I have spoken to and they are obviously interested in me. They seem nice and I am questioning of meeting one of them to take the dogs for a walk (social distancing). What are your thoughts on dating or seeing what else is out there? I think it would help me move forward. They are aware of my separation but not the affair. Although it's not what people would want to hear, I do want my W back but am trying to move forward because I become more and more skeptical that we would ever get back together in a long-lasting relationship.
