First off, I don't pretend to understand how OM affects your standpoint. Her not working, etc. I can only imagine.
Given that, your interactions with W at home seem normal to me. At least similar to mine. I don't feel disrespected in general, but occasional flareups from W and I have gotten good at ignoring. Seems to my benefit. She has a lot going on in her head, as do I.
I don't know how long term an in-home separation works (seems very challenging to me without some space), but use this time where you are stuck to your advantage. If anything, you will have a better idea how to move forward when COVID is over.
Work with her on parenting, get her opinion. Give your areas of improvement a shot. Regardless of hers. I know my W is always more on edge than me and I always try to stay cool no matter what little flareup I may get from her throughout a day. That is natural I think in our situations.
Life is short...worry about you and take a step back to see where this might go. You have time.
