Get into what? YOU validate HIM, not the other way around. If he asks how you are doing then just say "Fantastic!" and leave it at that. Remember Sandi's rules!
. Thank you! I did wait 3 hrs to reply and I think I said something like “I not sure what you mean [about being in a better place] but I don’t really want to answer questions like that on text. I would prefer to speak to you f2f if there is anything you want to know or ask”. That’s when he asked if we could talk at the weekend. I said sure, of course. And that was the end of the conversation. How should I have responded? If he wants an opportunity to talk, I should let him? I haven’t invited him over - we didn’t discuss where/ when we would talk.
What actions should I be looking for (or should he be demonstrating) when we are separated and I am trying to limit contact? He is coming over daily, he’s asking me to exercise with him, he makes excuses to come in the house, makes excuses to contact me, calling to see if I need anything from the shops. He’s definitely being more tactile and touchy-feely.
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M:49 H:49 T:20 M:18 D:16 D:14
EA: Feb 2019-May 2020 Separated: Mar-early Aug 2020 H asked to reconcile: Jun 2020 EA relapse: Oct/Nov 2020 Recon #2: since Nov 2020
