Wow, Alison. That reframing of the positive sides to his less flexible parenting style and the negative parts of your own flexibility... that feels very profound to me. And that you are balancing each other out and learning to take what serves you from the other's style... wow. I think that is amazing. And glad to hear that things are generally going so well both in the house across the board and between your H and eldest. It is really encouraging. Maybe the silver lining to the craziness going on in the world is that the crisis is pushing you all (eldest included!)-- whether because of the enforced togetherness or the sense of the weight and enormity of what is going on-- to get through some of the issues that had been there in the past.


Me (46) H (42)
M:14 T:18, D9 & D11
4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs
9/20 - present: R and piecing